Those intimate moments

I've been debating about writing this entry for a while. Finally, I decided to take the plunge and write it. After all, this blog is to inform hearing people of all the aspects of my life as a deaf person. This would also include my life in the bedroom. So be warned - if you don't want to know, don't read on! (I really hope my family take the hint and don't read on - there are certain things relatives just don't need to know!)

One of the problems I've noticed with my hearing aids is that if my head is in a certain position (ie, if I'm cuddling someone and have my head rested against their chest etc.) then I get feedback from them. The same goes for if my head is in several other... positions. I find it easier to just take out my hearing aids when I'm getting intimate with someone.

This of course means that I am deaf in the bedroom, which can have its drawbacks! When it is someone's first time sleeping with a deaf person, the fact that I am deaf can slip one's mind in the heat of the moment. I'm assuming it has something to do with the fact that during the heat of the moment, most of their blood flow isn't reaching their brain!

Or they remember that I'm deaf, but don't think it applies to this situation. It's happened once or twice that I've been asked 'why didn't you answer me when I talked to you?'. There is no point in whispering sweet nothings to me as I won't hear them to respond to.

Sometimes they think that I'm being a bitch, because I don't talk during those intimate moments. It's not such a big deal if it's a regular partner - my ex was used to silence in the bedroom. But if it's a first time for someone being with a deaf person, it can make them nervous. Let me assure you though - everything else is working properly, it's just my ears that don't work!

I've also had one or two surprises suddenly happening. I won't go into detail, which I'm sure you're relieved to hear, but I have had to ask one or two people what on earth they thought they were doing.

'I took your silence as a yes.'

'I'm deaf.'

'Oh yeh... oops!'

Like I said, it can lead to some very ...interesting... situations.

But what is life if it's not about making discoveries and being able to have a laugh at those kinds of situations, and of course, experiencing new things!

Deaf Girl